Round One

During Round One of our marriage, I was not nice at all. In fact, I was a downright jerk. My AVP made it easy for me to avoid looking at my actions and their repercussions until it was too late.

I did some very bad things, and put my wife through a lot of pain.

Somehow she hung on for 15 years, but then one day, she reached her limit and we divorced.

Divorced for 1 year

After our divorce, life got so bad for me that I had to be admitted into a mental hospital. I got the help that I needed and found my path to recovery. After a year of being apart, one day my wife saw the changes in me and told me that she wanted to work on our friendship.

Little did she know that God and I had bigger plans for us. I took her to Seattle, which is her favorite place, and to the Seattle Ferris Wheel. While the wheel was stuck at the very top, I got down on one knee and proposed to her with a ring I had carefully hidden all day.

Round Two

We are now happily re-married! We are also raising our teenage daughter, who is also doing very well. We are going strong and are not looking back!

Passing On What I Learned

This website, this nonprofit, my book, and my podcast are the result of 40+ years of living with Avoidant Personality, researching Avoidant Personality, talking to those that have Avoidant Personality, and talking with the loved ones of those in relationships with Avoidant partners.